How Do I Let My Partner Know I Want To Try Anal Sex?
Ever wonder: How do I let my partner know I want to try anal sex? We have all the tips and advice you need to help you incorporate anal play into your sex life with the consent of your partner. We all know how important consent is to ensure both parties enjoy the experience to the maximum.
Start by discussing anal sex with your partner in a calm, quiet, private environment. Find out if they have had anal intercourse before. If not, ask them what about the practice makes them hesitant to indulge in it. Open and honest communication is crucial during this chat.
Some people steer clear of anal sex because they consider it dirty. This problem can easily be solved by both parties agreeing to take a shower or bath before intercourse. It is also recommended that the receptive partner have a bowel movement prior to intercourse, followed by an enema if they really want to ensure this type of sex is squeaky clean.
Many women have had bad experiences with anal sex in the form of pain or discomfort during the activity. This is the number one reason women avoid anal play. It is essential to note that anal sex should never hurt. Pain during intercourse should not be a factor if you are doing it correctly. There are two common causes of pain during anal intercourse namely a lack of foreplay and a lack of sufficient lubrication. If you or your partner experience pain or discomfort during anal play, stop immediately.
Sufficient foreplay is essential to ensure mind-blowing anal sex. Foreplay helps individuals prepare both mind and body for sex. It also helps a person relax. The more relaxed your partner is the better the chances are that they will agree to anal play and enjoy it to the point of reaching a climax. Try using sex toys specifically designed for anal stimulation during foreplay. This will help your partner get used to the feeling of anal penetration.
Lube! Lube! Lube! Invest in as much lube as possible and use it abundantly during anal foreplay and penetration. Remember that the anus is not naturally self-lubricating like the vagina. Penetration will be a lot easier and the risk of injury such as tears significantly reduced if a sufficient amount of lubricant is used.
The type of lubricant you use is also important. Water-based lubricants are safe to use with latex condoms as well as sex toys and washes off easily with warm water. This type of lube will however require frequent re-application since it dries quickly. Steer clear of oil-based lubricant if you are using latex condoms or toys. This lube disintegrates latex material and can cause condoms to tear or burst.
The receptive partner will also feel more relaxed if they are able to guide the penetration to their satisfaction. This can feel empowering as they get to control the depth, speed and angle of penetration and in turn reach a point of pleasure so intense that an orgasm follows.
