How To Minimize The Marks Left From Your BDSM Play?
Looking for tips on how to minimize the marks left from your BDSM play? We have got the ultimate inside scoop on how to practice impact play safely and minimize the marks left by this activity.
Let us first have a look what BDSM means. BDSM stands for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism, and the acronym has largely replaced the earlier term sadomasochism.
Marks during BDSM are usually left during impact play. Impact play refers to any form of impact on the body for sexual gratification purposes. Spanking, punching, whipping and flogging are all forms of impact play.
To minimize marks from impact play it is recommended that you steer clear of edge play activities. These activities push the boundaries of what is considered safe, sane, and consensual. Edge play can inflict serious harm if not done correctly. Even if you are an expert, these activities should be indulged in with extreme caution.
The abbreviation RACK stands for risk-aware consensual kink and is the guideline all BDSM activities should follow. It means all parties understand the risks they are taking by participating in BDSM and explicitly consent to it. Consent for any shape or form of sex including BDSM is crucial. Therefore, pre-sex negotiations are so important. During these negotiations, limits and boundaries need to be discussed in detail to ensure the comfort, safety and sexual satisfaction of the parties involved. Any health problems or concerns also need to be addressed.
Safe words must also be identified. Safe words are an easy way for submissive to communicate whether they are enjoying or disliking the activity. If a participant experiences discomfort or pain during BDSM, the activity needs to stop immediately.
Another way to minimize marks is to hit areas on the body that are fat and fleshier such as the butt cheeks and thighs. Never hit a person on their spine or lower back where the kidneys are located. All areas that can result in organ damage must be avoided at all costs.
If you like slapping, steer clear of the mouth, nose and eyes. It is recommended that you use a pillow to practice on before engaging in real-life impact play. It is advised that you start by using your hand and then move to BDSM-specific sex toys when you are more advanced at impact play.
Aftercare is a very important part of BDSM. It is vital that the dominator or dominatrix check whether the submissive is feeling good and secure with the activities that unfolded, post-sex or after a scene has ended. Aftercare is a crucial part of any sex that involves the possible risk of physical harm, including impact play. Aftercare may require the dominator or dominatrix to bring the submissive food, water, or medication for bruises.
If you feel uncomfortable or experience any pain during BDSM activities tell your partner immediately and ask them to stop. As a submissive, you still have the right to say NO and STOP!
